Sometimes no matter what you do, you can't win. Someone else has all the power and you're quite simply at their mercy. It can destroy your mood for a while, or even the whole day. It can destroy your joy for life if you let it go that far. At the time, it seems like the challenge ...the hardship ...is in what the other party does or says to tear you down. But the real struggle is not allowing yourself to become like them. Hateful, vengeful, vindictive.
You can't control what others choose to do with whatever power they have, but you can control how you react. My mother used to say it doesn't matter what other people do to you, YOU do the right thing. She was right. We are accountable to ourselves and to God. Period. How many times when we disciplined our children were we swayed by the excuse 'but they did it first!' I doubt the Lord would accept such an excuse either. So whatever the circumstances in your life, whatever others do to you or say about you ...YOU do what you know is right. And if ever you find yourself with such power over someone else, however justified you may feel in devastating their life in a big way or even a small way, please please err on the side of compassion.
Lest any who read this think I'm talking about Yeoldfurt, I am most certainly not. He is my best friend, my shelter in the storm ...this one and all the others.